Here are some ideas on cultivating an air of fantabulousness.
* Study yourself. What do you like about your face? Which angle makes you look the best? Are your brows as groomed as they can be? Should they be thicker for a dramatic look, or thinner for glamour? Should you embrace your pale skin? Or should you nurture a tannish glow? What colors would complement your features and complexion? Is your hair long or short? What color? Would it look better with another style or a different length? Consider all the possibilities for showing off and enhancing your best features. Your face and body belong to you. Make a fun project of showcasing them!
* In the same spirit of showcasing yourself, play around to find a signature "look" or "staple" that makes you unique and individualized. It could be a tan, a hairstyle, a certain piece of jewelry, a hat, acrylic nails, a designer bag, a streak of gray through the hair, a ribbon around the neck, a particular perfume (mine tends to be Angel by Thierry Mugler) a funny t-shirt, buccaneer boots, red lips... The possibilities are ENDLESS! Even if you feel like your self-care and image are lax, if you find an identifying "beauty badge" you will not only have something to build a look around, but something unique that people will admire about you. For example, I work with this girl who wears the most amazing vintage peasant blouses every day. She combs through thrift stores and her attic to find these things. She found an old muumuu, liked it, and had her grandmother take the bottom off to make it a shirt! Umm, is that not amazing? Love a specific designer? Let that designer serve as your Beauty Badge (if you're lucky enough to afford them!) . There are so many things you can do!
* Sometimes we let the drudgeries of life cloud our perception of ourselves and our fantabulousness. We have to deal with work, financial worries, family, our health... We sometimes feel dumpy and unattractive. Beauty and glamour can seem like an entire other world we can't take part in. Fight these feelings! Create your own space. Nay, create your own temple. Your temple could be your body, which you pamper and nourish, or your home. Take a nap, sweat in a sauna, luxuriate in a fragrant bath of hot water (but not too hot! Remember my lessons about hot water!). Surround yourself with candles, good food, good scents, good books, and good movies. Turn your bedroom into a sexy boudoir. Strip naked and drape yourself in your finest jewels! Create an experience for yourself.
To sum up:
* Know thyself.
* Distinguish thyself.
* Indulge thyself.